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Last week
we determined that most successful
people in the world—in
business, in family, in life,
in sports, in entertainment—are
masters of controlling their
own states.
This is
a crucial issue when it comes
to prospecting in your career--because
too often we don't to the
things we know we should because
we don't feel like it. We
"wait for inspiration"
or the energy, or the confidence
to build itself. When you
do this, are you in control
of your state, or is your
state in control of you?
If we gain
the upper hand by putting
ourselves in controlling your
state, then there are two
things you must learn to master:
1. your
mind
2. your
body
No big
deal, right? In fact, there
isn’t much else to consider,
is there? As we indicated
before, your state is the
result of whatever messages
you send yourself, combined
with the physical condition
of your body.
You may
ask, “What about our
environment? Doesn’t
that influence our state?”
Sure. However,
the environment is perceived
through the mind. The same
environment that favors a
positive state for one person
may favor a negative state
for another. Take a crowded,
networking event for example.
One person in this environment
may go into a positive, excited,
fun and happy state—fed
from the many people about
meeting and greeting and talking
about their business.
Another
person may, in the same environment,
go into a state of anxiety,
quite possibly because he
or she does not do well in
such as situation. It’s
all about how one perceives
their environment.
Don’t
think you can control your
state? Think again. You do
it all the time—or at
least you attempt to.
Ever come
home from a long day working,
and after completing things
around the house or with the
family, just want to kick
back and watch TV or read
a book? You basically want
to unwind, deflate. Whatever
you call it, you are attempting
to change your state.
Indeed,
changing our state is what
we are trying to do all the
time. Most compulsive behaviors
(substance abuse, overeating,
excessive television, etc.)
are attempts to change states.
So are positive activities
such as reading, meditation
and exercise. Pharmaceutical
companies promise cures for
undesired chronic states,
such as anxiety and depression,
by treating physiological
conditions that are believed
to be tied to them.
However, in most cases, physiology
is only part of the solution.
The messages you send to your
brain—your “self-talk”—often
plays an even greater role
in your state and thus your
resourcefulness. The mind
is more powerful than the
body. Anyone who has mastered
their state will attest to
this.
Stay with
me on this next week, when
we will go over specific techniques
that, with some practice,
will help you to shift your
state on command.

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